“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.” — Muhammad Ali
How true is this quote. Lately, a goal of mine has been to listen twice as much as I speak during a conversation. I try to ask more questions pertaining to topics ranging from how their day is going to perhaps a hardship they’re experiencing.
When you are having a conversation, are you simply trying to be patient? Ready to jump in with your advice, funny story, or other comments? The next time you talk to a friend or loved one, refrain from this, and simply listen.
Validate their feelings with statements like, “That has to be frustrating…” or “Tell me more about that!” This has really strengthened my relationships lately.
Now, what about staying in touch with old friends? Are they really gone forever? Not if you’ve taken beautiful care with warm touches. What do I mean? Perhaps you send a friendly text just asking how they’ve been. Even better, if you have their address send them a postcard the next time you travel. I believe most people like getting a hand written note JUST for them.
In closing, just because you may not speak daily to friends from days of old, the memories in your heart will remain should you choose to keep “listening” to the steady sometimes quiet heartbeat of your friendship.
My dear friend, I am listening. Until we meet again.